Motherhood- if not ticked in our checklist, the world labels us with various names, judges us and even comes to give us advice on how this could be the biggest mistake of our life. Having children is deemed as the most obvious step once you get married and if you are childfree by choice even after marriage, it is a difficult journey.
I am childfree by choice. Many can call me selfish, but I love my freedom- doing whatever I can, whenever I want. I love the life me and my husband have. We are enjoying every bit of it, so the thought of bringing a child into our lives never crossed our mind (even after years of marriage!)
It is a huge responsibility, something that can turn one’s life upside down. I have seen my friends who have kids, and I have first-hand witnessed how their lives have taken a U-turn, how their priorities have changed, how it is not an easy job to raise a child. I guess I have never been ready for such a responsibility, and I don’t think I’ll ever be.
Then comes the financial responsibility. With day to day expenses going sky-high, you need to dedicate a lot of your earnings in raising a child. Having a child would mean a great deal of sacrifice on several aspects. My financial freedom is something that I do not want to compromise with. I want to travel, to learn & to enjoy a good quality of life- all this is certainly possible even if you have a child, but it requires patience, hardwork & adjustments. And, I do not wish to give in so much effort in doing things that I love doing.
Moreover, I also believe that we as a world are moving slowly towards doom. Environmental degradation, pandemics, epidemics, depletion of even basic resources – it is becoming a tough place to live. Not many might agree with me, but I don’t see the point of bringing a life into a world that is already dying.
Before you decide to become a mother, it is crucial that you set your priorities straight. There are several questions you need to ask yourself before making this decision. Is it your career that you love or the idea of having a family excites you more? Are you ready to take the emotional, physical & financial responsibility that comes with having a child? Do not be stingy in asking yourself as many questions as you can come up with and then take a call. I do not regret my choice, and I hope you do not too, whatever be your choice!